"This is just a fact of life, no one is to blame for it."
Please remember that your culture affects your idea of normal immensley. There are large periods of history where europeans considered being overweight attractive, where being extremely pale was attractive rather than tan etc. Some cultures have even more extreme versions of this (foot binding, neck lengthening rings etc). Those people probably thought that their idea of beuaty was "just a fact of life" too.
I can almost guarantee you that any of those cultures (foot binding, neck lengthening rings etc) would absolutely agree that the hot girl at the club in NYC with her normal size neck and feet is indeed hot.
Please remember that your culture affects your idea of normal immensley. There are large periods of history where europeans considered being overweight attractive, where being extremely pale was attractive rather than tan etc. Some cultures have even more extreme versions of this (foot binding, neck lengthening rings etc). Those people probably thought that their idea of beuaty was "just a fact of life" too.