This seems like an inefficiency to solve, though maybe it definitionally can’t be solved online?
And I mean this in a hopeful way: All the time when I out and about and thinking about this problem, I see so many mediocre looking couples out there that seem happy. In fact, looking at my dating history, I would not make a direct correlation between say, being my “type” and relationship success.
I remember when I was in high school, my (notably single) friends made fun of this girl I was dating because she had a funky tooth, and I remember having the wherewithal to think to myself, who cares, she’s fun and makes me happy.
I think generally speaking the internet has really done us a disservice in making us think if we don’t have the ideal life we won’t be happy, when often the opposite is true, being fully engaged with a normal life is the true route to happiness for most people.
There’s also, I don’t know how to describe it, but fundamentally sad about the idea that mediocre people shouldn't be loved, I think what makes it really sad, is not what it says about other people, but what it says about the person who believes that.
And I mean this in a hopeful way: All the time when I out and about and thinking about this problem, I see so many mediocre looking couples out there that seem happy. In fact, looking at my dating history, I would not make a direct correlation between say, being my “type” and relationship success.
I remember when I was in high school, my (notably single) friends made fun of this girl I was dating because she had a funky tooth, and I remember having the wherewithal to think to myself, who cares, she’s fun and makes me happy.
I think generally speaking the internet has really done us a disservice in making us think if we don’t have the ideal life we won’t be happy, when often the opposite is true, being fully engaged with a normal life is the true route to happiness for most people.
There’s also, I don’t know how to describe it, but fundamentally sad about the idea that mediocre people shouldn't be loved, I think what makes it really sad, is not what it says about other people, but what it says about the person who believes that.