I'm not disputing the difficulty of the problem, just the root cause motivations.
I don't want to cast aspersions on your friends in Seattle, but...maybe you need better friends.
I've been a local and I've been an expat (5 years in western Europe). I feel that the default PNW "mental model" is diametrically opposed from the expat mindset.
Expats don't want to be tied down, they want to see as much as possible, see the world, meet lots of people. Build friendship quickly and deeply, but then move on too.
PNW is nothing like that.
IMO your expats coming to this conclusion that the reason why the PNW locals are the way they are is a failure of imagination of expats - a lack of understanding of outdoorsy introverts.
We're not thinking about our positions in friend groups.
I don't want to cast aspersions on your friends in Seattle, but...maybe you need better friends.
I've been a local and I've been an expat (5 years in western Europe). I feel that the default PNW "mental model" is diametrically opposed from the expat mindset.
Expats don't want to be tied down, they want to see as much as possible, see the world, meet lots of people. Build friendship quickly and deeply, but then move on too.
PNW is nothing like that.
IMO your expats coming to this conclusion that the reason why the PNW locals are the way they are is a failure of imagination of expats - a lack of understanding of outdoorsy introverts.
We're not thinking about our positions in friend groups.