>> The last straw was when I realized I was the toxic asshole at a job
It takes a lot of experience, wisdom and courage to accept and fix that. What other factors do you think helped you fix it? Financial security which allows one to take breaks or top notch in demand skills that helps one find a new job quickly come to mind, but it could something non-material and I am interested in hearing that. Thanks for sharing your journey.
It's been a busy day, so I'll say that after that the main thing that helped me was finally accepting I have issues with anxiety and doing something about it. Things that most people would consider small get blown out of proportion in my head (or can). And many small things become insurmountable to me, or excessively frustrating. Cognitive behavioral therapy, in particular, helped me a lot with dealing with it. I still have anxiety issues, but now I see it coming and react in better and more effective ways than becoming burnt out, frustrated, depressed, toxic, or whatever else I had done prior to that.
It takes a lot of experience, wisdom and courage to accept and fix that. What other factors do you think helped you fix it? Financial security which allows one to take breaks or top notch in demand skills that helps one find a new job quickly come to mind, but it could something non-material and I am interested in hearing that. Thanks for sharing your journey.