In my experience when you leave something you carry “doingness” inertia. If you carry that into a motivated and structured activity then you might have a great time, especially if you find others who want to do the same
thing.
If you dump your “doingness” into something that doesn’t feed back into your social connection or reputation, like playing video games alone in the middle of the day while everyone else is working, and expect Gandalf to drop in and send you on an epic quest, you’ll find yourself adrift at best.
From what I’ve seen, most people who find themselves lost do not have a “one and only dream in life.”
> expect Gandalf to drop in and send you on an epic quest, you’ll find yourself adrift at best
Oof, too true. It's a dangerous expectation that I had/have (and try to break) that purpose will present itself TO me. Probably because it did throughout my younger life, but only because I was inside of an institution which provided this (often with it's own motive).
(semi)retirement removed me from the institutions, and not being part of the regular rhythm of the work day can alienate you from your usual social network. Without a family demanding something of you, adrift is accurate.
If you dump your “doingness” into something that doesn’t feed back into your social connection or reputation, like playing video games alone in the middle of the day while everyone else is working, and expect Gandalf to drop in and send you on an epic quest, you’ll find yourself adrift at best.
From what I’ve seen, most people who find themselves lost do not have a “one and only dream in life.”