That's a strikingly similar situation to ours. Our 4th grader has autism and needed special education services, but of course those didn't exist. At the same time, our typically developing kid was starting kindergarten virtually. At one point the teacher booted him from the class meeting because he was drawing a picture instead of writing words. She told us to ensure that he only joins class ready to learn.
All I can say is I'm glad we are all back in-person. The full-time dual-career parents as teacher's aides life was a fever dream of nearly snapping daily.
As a final anecdote: our kids had a full-time gym teacher. They were supposed to have “gym” lessons three times a week.
For the entirety of covid, their “lesson” was a single powerpoint slide with the words “go play” on it.
That was the entirety of the work that needed to be done by the gym teacher for a year - post that one slide to google classroom at the appropriate times.
All I can say is I'm glad we are all back in-person. The full-time dual-career parents as teacher's aides life was a fever dream of nearly snapping daily.