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Book recommendations in that respect:

- "No more Mr. Nice Guy" Robert A. Glover: A great book on identification and elimination of nice guy behaviors with lots of exercises.

- "When I say no I feel guilty" Manuel J. Smith: Techniques with lots of examples on how to stay assertive and deal with attempts to manipulate you into doing something. Relevant for dealing with colleagues, spouses, shop clerks, ...

There are others but those two books will get you very far if you take this seriously.



I read "No more Mr. Nice Guy" a few years ago and it completely changed my perspective on personal relationships, made me realise my own behaviour was part of the reason for my failed relationships in the past. I highly recommend reading it if you are interested in self-improvement.


Reading "No more Mr. Nice Guy" was like someone peering into my brain and describing it. I'm cautious in taking the psychological explanations for granted, but the behaviors themselves were scarily accurate.


I've never heard of Robert A. Glover but the book sounds very interesting. Man, the GoodReads reviews are getting destroyed.


If you're unsure, he is sometimes a podcast guest. The book shares the same honest and vulnerable tone of his conversations.


Thanks for the tip!

Loading up this https://overcast.fm/+NS2z7mjsA for this morning's testing session.


I just discovered "No more Mr. Nice Guy" a few weeks ago and it is completely blowing my mind!


Just make sure to balance out its prejudice with The Will to Change


Yes! Another comment described NMMNG as peering into his brain, but The Will to Change peered into my childhood and my relationships and my soul.




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